Modesty’s Okay but Modesty?
I’ve had it with modesty. While having a moderate estimation of one’s abilities, value, and talent is cool, the part about being reserved and proper in speech, behavior, and dress–that is the part that gets me.
I want to know about the successes of those around me. I want you all to shed reserve and propriety and share the news because:
1) It makes me happy to know that people I love are feeling some love.
2) It is inspiring to know that, despite all the vapid things being produced, published, and praised, there is also good work that is getting produced, published, and praised.
3) When my people, most of whom are not particularly well connected, get attention it shows that some systems work, that one doesn’t necessarily have to cocktail-party-her-way to the top.
In one of my reading groups, (this one is comprised of female employees at the Colorado School of Mines) we are reading Women Don’t Ask. The book, written by Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever, an economist and journalist duo, aims to uncover the reasons why women are in less powerful positions and earn less money than men. One of the problems is mentioned in the title. One reason women don’t ask for as much as men do is because we don’t generally feel entitled to as much. Unfortunately, I can relate to many of the points made in the book, especially this one:
[W]omen are much more likely than men to think that simply working hard and doing a good job will earn them success and advancement Read more »



